What does it really mean to be nice, flexible, or accomodating? When is there a crossover into tradeoff, compromising, or pushover. Sacrifice is clearly well marked in another place. What about good old ambivalent?
It's amazing how often good intentions + good intentions = bad result. Sometimes when you're on completely opposite sides of the fence, there is no happy middle ground, and you have to just do your own thing. Sometimes there is a middle ground. Sometimes, one side is too used to getting their way, and never wants to compromise. Giving ground just makes the situation worse.
Lately, I've been teetering close to (sometimes over) the line of happy tradeoff into the territory of reluctant compromise. I've lost count of the number of times it has happened in the past few weeks. For years, people told me that I was stubborn or uncompromising. Have I really changed that much? How did I get here? Who am I? What happened to me?
Next time, when someone is being a PITA, I'm just not going to bother working it out. No reason to give ground as a policy. I'm tired of getting option C or D, because I'm being flexible. The next time someone is an hour late, I'm just leaving without them.
At least I never made it to sacrifice.
Everybody Else Is Doing It, So Why Can't We? - The Cranberries
